Isle of Lewis is pretty much the way I have faded. Fortunately (and unfortunately) we experienced a tragedy in our family that really opened my eyes to the TTAT. Unlike some who decide to leave because of doctrine, the lack of love was the catalyst. Missing meetings and service was easy once I confronted the elders for their lack of concern and true empathy and compassion. Elders don't like it when people tell them they are far from Jesus especially when you have served as an elder are were stellar in that regard (not trying to blow my own horn, just the truth). So, no calls. No visits. No shepherding. NOT even a visit from the CO after serving for as long as I did. It has been easy for me and no incling of returning.
As for family, well my family was pretty dysfunctional anyway so they pretty much didnt care about me or mine when we were towing the party line....no great loss there.